Renovating a home is often idealised as a rewarding experience for couples, but a new study reveals a starkly different reality altogether, as it can end up ruining relationships for many.
Key Findings
According to research conducted by Novuna Personal Finance, the biggest bugbears within the home include a lack of storage space (32%), outdated kitchens (27%), and cramped bedrooms (19%). Consequently, only two-fifths (39%) of UK homeowners feel that their home is a truly relaxing space. This indicates a disconnect between the dream of a renovated home and the reality of ongoing issues that many couples face.
Impact on Relationships
Worryingly, nearly 19% of homeowners acknowledge that renovation projects have strained their relationships to the point of contemplating separation or experiencing actual breakups. Notably, 1 in 15 (7%) homeowners confessed that renovation disagreements were the final straw that ended their relationship.
This trend is especially pronounced among younger homeowners, with 38% of individuals aged 25-35 admitting they nearly split up during their home makeover, while 18% acknowledged that they could not reconcile their renovation disputes. The pressure to create a perfect living environment often amplifies underlying tensions, resulting in disputes that extend beyond just the renovations themselves.
DIY vs. Professional Help
Despite the challenges, our research revealed that 57% of homeowners would rather take on renovation projects themselves than hire a professional. This decision can lead to additional stress, as the added responsibilities of DIY can weigh heavily on relationships, potentially putting further strain on couples. With many couples believing they can handle projects independently, the lack of professional support may exacerbate tensions.
Finances Fuel Renovation-Related Rows
Financial issues emerged as the primary source of renovation-related arguments (28%), closely followed by clashing priorities (19%) and underestimating the time required to complete the work (16%). However, despite budget constraints being a significant source of tension, 81% of homeowners agreed that their renovations were ultimately worth the cost. Interestingly, 14% reported experiencing fewer arguments post-renovation, suggesting that shared accomplishments can ultimately strengthen couples’ bonds and improve their relationships.
Compromise is Key
With over half of homeowners (57%) reporting domestic arguments stemming from renovation decisions, it is no surprise that nearly two-thirds (61%) of home improvement projects in the UK are put on hold as a result. More than a quarter of participants (26%) reached an agreement by compromising on design aspects, with women slightly more inclined to find common ground (27%) compared to 24% of men. Another 23% opted to compromise on budget. However, a concerning 23% admitted to ignoring the issue, leaving projects undone and tensions unresolved, which can create a toxic atmosphere at home.
Expert Insight
Theresa Lindsay, Marketing Director at Novuna Personal Finance, stated, “As house prices continue to rise, undertaking a renovation project can be a great way to enter the housing market and transform your feelings about your home. Our research shows that having realistic goals and a clear budget from the outset is essential for reducing tension and maintaining harmony within the household.”
Geographical Insights
Regions with the highest reports of break-ups and disputes due to renovations include:
- London: 39% of homeowners reported either nearly splitting up or actually splitting up due to home renovations.
- West Midlands: 25%
- North-East: 21%
- Northern Ireland: 20%
- Yorkshire and the Humber: 17%
- Scotland: 16%
- East Midlands: 16%
- South-East: 15%
- East of England: 15%
- North-West: 14%
Renovating a home can lead to unexpected challenges for couples. However, with clear communication and compromise, many can navigate the complexities of home improvement while strengthening their relationship.